Hiding Your Hobby
Imagine that you're a sex worker... you answer dozens (or more!)
of phone calls every day, from all kinds of callers. But what
happens when the person calling you isn't a potential client -
it's a client's wife, or girlfriend? She's found your phone number,
or an email you wrote to her partner, and she wants answers. This
has happened to almost every sex worker I know, but it's something
none of us want to face.
The most common one is the innocent sounding 'what's this number?'
caller - a female asking what 'kind' of number this is, because
she found it in her husband's cell phone on his call list, or
on a piece of paper in his pocket, or, or, or. Of course, there
are also the savvier women who google the phone number and know
exactly what 'kind' of number it is, and who exactly it belongs
to. Then you get either the irate screamer, the pitiable sober,
or the intensely curious caller.
Either way, all SPs that I know will bend over backwards to try
to cover your asses, gentlemen. After all, it's in our best interest
- we don't want your SO stalking us, or naming us in a divorce
suit, and we honestly don't want to get you in trouble. But some
of you guys need to learn to cover your tracks better, because
there's only so much we can do if your SO catches on.
Here are a few things to help you to minimize the risk
of being caught.
Clear your call logs off of your cell phone. This is the #1 way
that I know of for men to get caught. Ditch detailed billing (bills
that track every incoming/outgoing call), or else buy a pay as
a you go cell. Ditto voice mails - clear them, don't save them.
Use an anonymous email account, and change your password on a
regular basis. The best ones can be set to automatically log you
out after a certain amount of time. Yahoo mail, gmail, hotmail
and others are all good alternatives, but, again, an email account
is only as good as you are. Make sure you are
logged out before closing your browser! Another tip is to remove
and delete all old emails as soon as you are sure you no longer
need them, including sent mail. It might be fun to keep a running
copy of all of your correspondence with every woman you've seen,
but it isn't very smart.
Log off of boards when you leave - clear those cookies! It's
not the dark ages - even computer illiterate women know to check
your browser's history. Clear it all, every time.
Your browser has a history
- click here to learn how to get rid of all traces of those
incriminating websites you've been surfing...
Not sure if you can do a good enough job on your own eliminating
emails, image caches and internet history? This software
(off site link) will do it for you.
Don't keep incriminating pieces of paper hanging around in your
pockets, especially if you also expect your SO to wash your pants.
Have a cover story for when you slip away to see us, and for
God's sake - accept that shower before leaving to go home! A suspicious
woman has a nose like a bloodhound, and can detect the smell of
perfume and the look of a trace of glitter from a 1/4 mile away.
It's five minutes, wash yourself off.
Finally... consider coming 'out' to your partner. Polyamory,
open relationships and other alternatives
to traditional monogamy (off site link)
do exist. Perhaps one of them is right for you and your partner.
Morgan