Ask a Sex Worker

November 17, 2005

Dear sex worker:

I'm thinking about seeing an escort for the first time, but I'm nervous and not sure how to go about it. Can I simply phone her up and ask her any questions that I have about what she will and won't do? Do I have to make an appointment? What do I pay her? Also, how can I be sure she's clean? I'm married and I don't want to bring anything home to my wife.

signed,
Nervous But Horny

Dear Nervous But Horny:

First things first - go read our etiquette page. It will give you lots of tips about what kinds of things will make a sex worker more or less likely to want to meet with you. Most ladies, for example, will not discuss specific acts with you over the phone. Doing so opens them up to all kinds of possible legal ramifications, and while hand cuffs can certainly be fun, spending the night in county jail isn't. It plays hell on your manicure, for one thing. Payment can be a tricky issue for some sex workers, depending on where they are, and what kind of work they do. Try just asking her politely what her gift for a 'one hour' (or whatever time you choose) visit is. Note the polite terms I'm suggesting? Asking in this format will definately get you a more positive response than just blurting out 'how much for you to fuck me?'. That'll get you introduced to mr. click-dial tone, really fast.

As for making sure your sex worker is clean, rest assured that the average sex worker is very, very concerned about her sexual health. After all, her body is how she makes her living, and keeping it healthy is like performing good vehicle maintenance. Chances are she's going to be just as worried about catching something from you as you are about catching something from her. That said, both of you are responsible for minimizing your risk. Our sexual health pages will give you some good starting points on safer sex.

Wishing you safer sex and more orgasms,

The Sex Worker